Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Pleasant Does Not Equal Nice

I was talking with M (the T) last night about how I feel like I don’t really have any friends at work – other than my twin bro, of course. I was telling her how I try and make an effort and reach out to people, but no fishys in the big corporate sea seem to bite. I told her that people never like me initially, and I don’t know why.
(She said that people might be intimidated by me. ...The hell?)
I mean, I’M AWESOME.

So anyway, I was telling her all this and I asked her,

I mean, I’m nice, right? You think I’m a nice person?”
And she laughed and said, “Yes, I think you’re pleasant.”
And I said—
PLEASANT?! I’m better than pleasant! I’m NICE.”

Right? Guys?

I have assets. (And I’m not just talking about my luscious pillows.)
I’m cool.
I’m funny.
And, dammit, I’m a JOY to be around.

…Right?

21 comments:

Pattie Cordova said...

*stammering* Yes..of course.. sure

Pattie Cordova said...

Maybe people are so entranced with your awesomeness that they seem themselves as not worthy... or it could just be that, truthfully, your fun and nice and some people don't know how to deal with that.

Sarah said...

HAHAHA, I love "dammit, I'm a joy to be around." Sort of reminds me of the time I told D "you WILL spend time with me tonight watching the Bachelor, and you WILL enjoy it!"

He was like, "Please don't hurt me..."

But for reals, I don't know you in PERSON, but I think you seem more than nice in blogland. You took time to encourage me with my blog when I emailed you as a perfect stranger, and that definitely was going above and beyond "nice." From my perspective, you are awesome!

brie said...

Haha, Sarah, that makes me laugh. :) I pretty much had to put Big B in a headlock to get him to watch Project Runway, which he of course loved. ;)

And P and S, thanks for liking me. ;) Too bad we live so far away...le sigh.

tawny said...

B,

I do got to say I love your luscious pillows for sure...but what's behind those pillows is your big, beautiful heart (for realsies!)

... and yes, you are a little intimidating, (but in a good way girl...you are a knock out 5'11 fashionista, YOU can't help it..you ooze hotness.) But us girls all know whats inside you and we love it! Y O U.

xoxo love your sis!

Zena said...

well I think you are absolutely wonderful I mean I dont know you in RT but you are funny..well even freaking hysterical...and you tell the best stories and everyone loves you so yes you are more then a joy to be around...you are freaking great!!!

love, Z

saa said...

i kinda feel you on this post! i have such anxiety about people that being friendly involves overcoming some huge anxiety barrier and if no "fishys bite" im like, "WTF??!! ohmgod everyone hates me!" At my job, i used to get butterflies about even saying "good morning" to people. Then my T said that i was "quirky" and people "may not know how to relate to me" at first!! geez! but really, I think for you, being tall, smart, and pretty may really intimidate people. Everyone has insecurities...i think if you just keep being you, everyone will come around!

Standing in the Rain said...

seriously brie. you are so cool. why else would you have like zillions of readers who can't get enough of you?

maybe the thing is that we get to see your heart and hilarity...perhaps you are "intimidating" because you are so "perfect" on the outside. i hope this makes sense and comes out the right way. but i mean you were a model brie! obviously people think you are beautiful and women are probably intimidated/jealous of that without even giving a chance to know the inside of you too. (my mom was saying this last night about a woman we know..that she's intimidating cuz she's so perfect and i said no she's not...my mom had no evidence for this statement of her "perfection" except for her beauty.) maybe it's a female thing.

all that to say. YES you are MORE than nice. you are kind, compassionate, hilarious, sweet, and friendly. don't let other people's first impressions of you get to you.

love you briester!

jana bananas said...

I don't get it. You're easily one of the nicest people I know. And yeah, I met you online before meeting you in person, but you're just such a good, silly, warm-hearted person.

Maybe people at your work are just dumb.

You know how awesome I am right? Well, in college, I made NO friends. People just didn't like me or something. It was very weird and sucky.

But you have many, many friends, so don't worry about those work weirdos!

satisfiction said...

Oh, totally nice. Not much else I can say - I was beaten to it by all these other nice people. :P

Seriously though, I liked you right off (I'm the exception, yay)! And hey... corporate fishies, do you really want them as your friends? I could be wrong, but aren't they usually sharks? ;)

licketysplit said...

I think that a lot of it probably has to do with their own insecurities (as others have mentioned).I know that's a big part of what it was for me. And I will admit that when I first saw you in real life (the only time I saw you in real life :P) I was definitely intimidated, which is why I didn't say hello. The only reason I can think is that you do seem so put-together and perfect and ridiculously beautiful. As I've read your blog I feel like I've been able to see you more as one of the rest of us, so to speak- you have more than your fair share of crap to deal with and you have your own imperfections(albeit, itty bitty tiny ones). But still I will admit, I sometimes feel like I'm being presumptuous to take the liberty to comment on your blog...even though I KNOW you're an incredibly nice person...I don't know if any of that made sense, and I superduper hope I didn't offend. :)

Keely said...

I think your way cool and funny, but when I first met you I thought you were really intimidating. Maybe it was because I didn't know you. :)

Brooke said...

I have been told that same thing about myself. I don't know why either. It may be because us Brown girls are just soooo babe-a-licious! No one dares to approach us for fear that we'll be "snotty" or "superficial." I know Amber has had trouble with this in the ward a lot. Amber is the sweetest gal ever on the earth, but people are also intimidated by her. This happened to me in High School looking back in retrospect and talking to old friends.

I'm not bragging, (to other readers it may seem so) but I think we (sisters) all come off with a confidence and (not all of us) mixed with a sort of shyness that can come off maybe intimidaing to others. Either way, they suck and you RULE. LOVE YOU and ALWAYS will and I love your luscious pillows too!

Savannah said...

I think that you are a joy to be around :) You're a great person and very nice. Love ya hun!

Penny said...

I think that you are are the luckiest person in the world to have these amazin gals who respond to you in such heartfelt ways. In our real live worlds I don't think anyone has 14 or 20 friends who respond and connect with us every day. So whatever happens in real world at work or home it really can't measure up to "blog world". I only ever had one friend I talked to everyday while I was raising my kiddos. And I do believe after long time watching of woman world that other women are put off by perceived perfection in other women. How can anyone know the real you and your real heart at work when you really don't have any real time to relate? When you first worked there, the woman that you worked closly with became a friend and mentor so I know this, that anyone that gets to know you does really like you. And you are way more than pleasant.....

Kara said...

Well I definitely think that it's harder to make friends at work than in other situations. Do you find it hard to make friends in other areas of your life?

I talked to you years (and years and years) ago at CFC and I remember you being very nice and approachable. And you are the bestest in blogland. Don't let what your T told you get you down. You are way more than pleasant. :)

rachel ramsay said...

well, some people aren't very cool... so i guess i'll have to come work at your work and be your corporate friend... as long as shep can come to work with us and i can sleep in until ten and leave when i want to buy giant sodas...

brie said...

You guys are so nice. :) I agree I'm not as "out there" at work as I am on my blog; I think if I were, I'd probably be fired, haha. How do you think it would go over if I kept saying "for realsies, guys?! It's totally LAME."

...Not well in a corporate world, methinks...too bad...

Nene said...

Um, hello, I totally blog stalk you and secretly wish we were besties! You're totally more than pleasant!

Sarah said...

I support your efforts to urbanize the workplace, yo. You got the promotion. Time to promote change!

Dana said...

Brie I have to tell you that I have always thought the world of you! Do you remeber when we were younger and got to hang out? I had more fun hanging out with you than I did my own cousins. The only reason I enjoyed going to the brown family reunions was to hang out with you! You have always been a blast to be around.:) those "sharks" obviously don't know you very well.