Friday, November 18, 2011

This Time of Year

I'm still sick, but I'm like dying in my boredom, so post an update it is.  Mila is napping and Cade is duly distracted by the Wii, so I have a bit of time to give you guys more of a meaty update, as most of my posts lately have been short or just pictures.

fun picture taking

What is it about this time of year that is difficult?  I LOVE Christmas, especially more so now that I have kids; Cade's excitement and wonderment of the season makes me so happy to witness and share with him.  But there's also no denying that the Thanksgiving/Christmas/Insert that Jewish Holiday too, don't know how to spell it -- is really difficult.  I always seem to struggle more with my ED during the holidays.  I have been thinking a bit about it, about why I do this, and I don't feel I have a concrete answer.

Oh, sure, I have plenty of excuses:  I need to lose pregnancy weight, (though that isn't much of an excuse anymore because I have technically lost it all) I don't like my body, feeling emotions is overrated, the sky is blue, Dumbledore is gay, engaging in my eating disorder seems to make sense in some twisted way. (LOL that rhymed!) I don't know.  It could be some of those things or none of those things or all of those things.

All I know is that right now, I am struggling.  Pretty bad.

And it's not particularly my mood; I think my ED has kind of made this pleasant numbness come over me.  Sure, I have a bit of anxiety, but for the most part I don't feel much.  But I will admit that my eating disorder behaviors are, at times, winning the battle over recovering v. relapsing.  And "relapsing" is a strong word, because I'm nowhere near that.  But if I don't get my shite together, it could eventually get there.

Thanksgiving is particularly tough for me.  I think it is because I have some pretty rough memories from this day over the years...two years ago I had just lost Kendall, very close to Thanksgiving of 2002 I lost my grandmother, and on Thanksgiving day of 2001, I began to engage in my eating disorder so severely that I lost a dramatic amount of weight in a very short time, and a few months later, landed myself in inpatient treatment for the first time.  Why I chose that day over any other in the year, I don't know.  But I don't like it.

But this year I am going to have a big piece of pumpkin pie with whipped cream, and I am going to have some hot rolls with butter that melts in your mouth, and I'll have me some mashed potatoes and gravy, too.  And I won't let past memories from this day bring me down.  And, if I'm lucky, I'll make some truly amazing memories with my sweet little family that I'll cherish and think about when I picture Thanksgiving, rather than some of the prevalent memories that cause some grieving.  And yes, old habits die hard, but I guess it's just time to make some new habits, then, isn't it?



Hang in there gal. I totally hear ya. The voice of the "monster" is becoming a bigger pain in my ass, as whell. Hang in there. Lots o' love!

Keely said...

Cheers to making new memories. :) For me it's hard this time of year because they are so family oriented-and if your family doesn't get together, is weird, dramatic, tense, haven't seen each other since last year, etc. than it can be somewhat stressful. Holidays (for me) seem to accentuate loneliness/depression for me which really used to make my ED go crazy. But I made a little twist in it where I get together with my sister and plan more social activities to make this season what I want it to be.

bri said...

I love u Brie and your recovery means so much to me I love u too much to even imagine any of those previous thanksgiving seasons be easy on yourself but don't give into a single bad thought of yourself you are one of the strongest women I've ever known you got this!! I love u and am ALWAYS here xoxo