Thursday, August 19, 2010

Oh, Now Mama's Mad

Okay, so I know that my blog is on a very public forum, and a ton of people read it.  I know that people who kind of know me, or knew me when I was like in frickin' preschool read it, or maybe I'm a friend of a friend's uncle's cousins ex-girlfriend or something.  More people have found me than I probably even want to know.  So I know that when stuff happens like what happened today, I should be prepared for it.  I should think to myself, "Hey Brie, you knew that when starting a blog, a lot of your very private life and private struggles will become much more public.  So you need to deal with it." 

And I've been okay with that.  I feel like I've helped a lot of you, or at the very least made some of you laugh or become a cautionary tale or whatever so sharing my personal and serious and witty and hilarious and pathetic stories with you has become totally worth it, and dare I say - even fun.

But today.  OH, TODAY.

My privacy has been breached.  I think I may need to go private.
What do I do?

32 comments:

THE CREATION OF A BEAUTIFUL LIFE said...

What happened?

Shanllleigh said...

I am sorry your privacy has been breached. :( I just found your blog today and I have enjoyed reading it. I have both laughed (i think you are funny) and cried :( As someone recovering myself I feel like I can relate to the struggle. I am sorry something happened that made you feel uncomfortable. :(

Kendra said...

Oh no! What happened? I don't know you, but found your blog through a friend's blog... I think you are great!

Tanya said...

Uh oh this does not sound good...

Katherine said...

People seriously suck sometimes. The good news? You don't.

Hilary said...

I've read forever, but notes NEVER work for me... so here's me trying one again to say: please don't leave! (or if you do, can this random gal from IL be on your very special list of allowed people? lol) I'm sorry people suck. :(

Hilary said...

YES! It worked! Sorry, I'm excited. For some reason it's never let me note you before. lol

Kerri said...

Oh dear- what happened? Some people can be such jerks.

Shannon said...

Uh oh. Hope it wasn't too creepy.

The Binge Diary said...

What happened? You better not quit on us!!! :)

Rose said...

Oh shoot! Ugh, why are people such creepers sometimes?! Not like fun, fb stalking people's pictures creepers but like serious skeezballs?
Whatcha gonna do?

Just That ZombieGrrl said...

I hope you don't have to go private. Your blog is wonderful! I've been reading for quite some time (as I'm sure you know since I've left comments), and have recommended it to others who wanted to read examples of contemporary memoir style blogs. If you do have to go "friends-only," I hope you will add me.

Take care!

Heather said...

I'm sorry someone had to be the turd in the punch bowl... myself and so many others love reading this blog and would hate for some creeper to ruin the wonderful message that you are putting out there. But do what makes you feel most comfy, girl. P.S. You are rocking the shiz out of recovery! So proud.

Krista said...

Double Boo! Love you!

Sheyenne said...

Ugh that sucks. I've had the same thing-ish happen. I had to hash it out with the people who used what i wrote against us. It wasnt pretty... but in the end I said screw 'em. But I hope your breach wasn't too creepy. ugh. some people.

Jen said...

Brie, you don't know me but I love your blog and was so excited to see you back. I am another long-term semi-recover-er and am familiar with The Ultimatum...I don't know what happened but I do hope that if you go private you will add me:) And I hope you'll tell us why you're mad. Sometimes the jerks deserve to get called out.

allegri said...

I am so sorry babes. Do what you need to do + whats best for you.

much love.

Stevie said...

Adding my voice to the chorus of those saying, "what happened?"

Also, as someone who's known you - virtually at least - since, well, not quite preschool but teenager-hood, if you do choose to go private, I'd still like to read. - Steph

mallorymallorah said...

Brie, I've enjoyed following your journey and really hope you don't have to go private. I've laughed and cried with you, and although you may hardly even remember me from high school I wanted to tell you how much I admire you for putting yourself out there. I admire you for sharing your stories with the world.

I hope the jerkface that invaded your privacy doesn't ruin it for the rest of us that look for inspiration in your words.

Some people just suck.

ania said...

Dear Brie,

I'm sorry that you experienced that. I try to stay caught up with your posts, and after reading the few most recent (and having dealt with misuse of shared information) I think I can imagine how you feel.

Hopefully, you'll be able find your way through this without permanent damage.

I'm totally pulling for you, my girl.

With care....

Kara said...

Hey Brie - I'm sorry. My blog is public too and I don't know what happened to you, but I understand the mortifying moment when someone finds you that you don't want to be found by. I think the appropriate feeling for me was disbelief and feeling like my socks just got blown off. It wasn't pretty. It turns out that this person found my blog through another person's blog. I immediately asked my friend to unlink me from her blog and that mostly solved the problem.

I don't know what happened to you, so really I have no right to comment on it, but in general I'm all about keeping blogs public. After all, how many times have we heard that secrets make us sick? It's a very liberating feeling for my blog to be public, even though it's risky.

Whatever your decision, just know that it doesn't have to be a permanent one.

I support you either way. You rock!

t. said...

oh no! logically i know the internet is a public place and that one shouldn't put things out there for mass consumption if you don't want everyone in the world to find it. but then i think to myself, well, what are the chances that most people will stumble across this stuff? and then one day it happened. and it freaked me the frick out. and even though i didn't really have the logical right to privacy, i totally felt comfy sharing what i had been sharing with the people i was sharing with because it felt private to me. i had no idea weirdos were looking in on me.

which is why my blog is el privato. or whatever.

sorry that your privacy was breached. i hope you are okay.

emily said...
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emily said...

oh yuck. the interwebs are complicated. the virtual world would be sad of course, but I think we all would want you to do what is best for you and your family.

brie said...

thanks all for the overwhelming support. i still haven't decided if i will go private or not, but if i do, i will try to add as many of you as i can - provided you are not creepy stalkers. :)

i love bows:) said...

this happened to me too a long while back, and it sucks it really does. i went private for a while, but it kinda made me feel like i was ashamed of what i was writing about, which kinda for me, defeated the point, since my blog was a bout learning to talk/write about the problems i have with ED. so im not private anymore. but you have to do whats right for you, depending on whats happened.

im really sorry this happened to you, cos your blog is really inspiring for a lot of people.

take care
vic x

alison said...

hi brie,
i have been enjoying your blog for about a year and a half; my sister has been dealing with ED for several years and your writing has given me strength to cope. i'm sure that there are others in my position who enjoy your blog as well. if you decide to go private, i hope that you will add me!

Sarah said...

Oh no! I am so sorry that something bad happened to you. I had to go private a while ago when some whackadoodle started leaving me harassing comments, and it hasn't turned out too badly for me. I was able to invite a ton of people to read. I stopped posting for a while, but not because I went private.

It sounds like something really upsetting happened. I'm sorry for that.

Erin said...

Unfortunately you can only have 100 followers on a friends-only blog and I'm sure Brie has more than that!

Ivette Ray said...

Just adding my voice to the chorus about hoping you don't go private. I am sorry someone violated your privacy. Although a stranger to you, I have cried, laughed and learned from you. Thank you.

Alexandra Rising said...

Having a private blog makes me feel a heck of a lot safer-- and more honest. Best wishes in whatever you choose :]

firefly said...

Unfortunately I went private because I had a stalker boy who crossed some lines. Since then hardly anyone reads it. I found your blog through a friends. I think it was a few months ago and I had to follow it. I was so glad you came back to it. Please stay!